Ruth Kadiri Warns Young Couples Against Expensive Weddings, Says They Put Pressure On Marriages

Nollywood actress Ruth Kadiri has urged young couples to consider simpler wedding ceremonies, warning that extravagant celebrations can place unnecessary mental pressure on couples and their marriages.

In a post shared on her Instagram page, the actress argued that elaborate weddings could heighten people’s fears and expectations about marriage, even when they have been in loving relationships for years.

According to Kadiri, the transition from dating to marriage can feel overwhelming for some couples, partly because of the pressure surrounding wedding ceremonies.

“I do think that big weddings put pressure on couples. It puts pressure on the marriage itself. Big weddings, they put pressure on people, and they don’t seem to have realised that,” she said.

The actress explained that her concern was not limited to the spiritual aspect of marriage but also the psychological pressure couples may experience.

She noted that some people are naturally afraid of marriage despite having loving and stable relationships, adding that the wedding ceremony itself could contribute to those fears.

Kadiri encouraged young couples to embrace modest ceremonies, suggesting that they could involve their families, fulfil the necessary traditional marriage requirements, invite a small number of guests to a court wedding and have a pastor pray for them afterwards.

She also suggested that couples could celebrate their weddings on a smaller scale, similar to birthday parties, rather than placing themselves under pressure to organise elaborate events.

Speaking about her own experience, the actress said she did not have an extravagant wedding and suggested that her decision may have contributed to the stability of her marriage.

“I never had that kind of marriage. I didn’t, and I feel like it’s part of why I’m successful,” she said.

Kadiri, who indicated that she had been married for about seven years, added that she considered herself successful in both her marriage and career.

Her comments have drawn attention to conversations about the financial, emotional and social expectations surrounding weddings, particularly among young couples who may feel pressured to organise elaborate ceremonies.

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